COUPLES Therapy
For couples caught in the same patterns, even when they both want things to be different.
Therapy for couples navigating conflict, disconnection, communication difficulties, loss of trust, or a relationship that no longer feels the way it once did.
You may be caught in a cycle that feels hard to break
This could look like…
In your conflict• Approaching conflict like a problem to solve, only to find that more explaining leaves you further apart.
• Rushing to fix things while your partner needs to feel heard first, or the reverse.
• Trying to prove your point or get your partner to see your side.
In your connection• Understanding each other intellectually but struggling to feel emotionally connected in the moment.
• Wanting closeness, but being vulnerable with each other feels uncomfortable or unfamiliar.
• Living like co-managers or roommates of a household instead of partners.
In your patterns• Feeling capable in every other area of life, yet struggling to get unstuck as a couple.
• Noticing that communication strategies that work well elsewhere fall flat in your relationship.
• Having the same conversations again and again without creating the change you both want.
What can changeFrom repeating the cycle to changing it together
Couples therapy allows you to understand the cycle you get caught in and practice responding differently when it happens. You can learn to intervene before a conversation turns into the same argument, stay connected when things feel difficult, and communicate what is underneath criticism, defensiveness, or withdrawal.
I may pause a conversation when I notice a familiar habit, help you put words to what is underneath a reaction, or prompt a different way of responding to your partner. We will notice what happens, talk about what you experienced, and try again.
The goal is not to agree on everything. It is to feel more understood, more emotionally connected, and more able to move through difficult moments together. The work is about experiencing a different way of relating, not just understanding it intellectually.
I practice Gottman Method Couples Therapy (trained in Levels 1 and 2) and Emotionally Focused Therapy for couples
FAQS
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Couples therapy begins with a structured four-session intake. The first session is with both partners together, followed by an individual session with each of you, and a final joint session to set goals for our ongoing work. From there, we start the work itself in weekly sessions.
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The Gottman Method is a research-based approach that focuses on the everyday habits that make relationships last. We begin with an assessment of your relationship's strengths and sticking points, then build and practice skills for handling conflict, deepening friendship, and creating shared meaning. You leave sessions with concrete tools to use at home.
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Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) is grounded in attachment science. It looks beneath the surface argument to the cycle the two of you get stuck in, such as one partner pursuing while the other pulls away. In session, we slow that cycle down, name the feelings underneath it, and help you reach for each other in new ways. The goal is a more secure emotional bond.
